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Carregando... The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Lossde George A. Bonanno
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Registre-se no LibraryThing tpara descobrir se gostará deste livro. Ainda não há conversas na Discussão sobre este livro. Conventional wisdom holds that grief unfolds in a five-stage process: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. But in The Other Side of Sadness, psychologist George Bonanno overturns this theory of grief--one that we have relied on for over forty yeart--and shows us that it does not, in fact, represent what the majority of us go through when we lose a loved one. An emotions expert and renowned authority on bereavement, Bonanno shows how the accepted model for mourning discounts our remarkable capacity for resilience. His research demonstrates that we are hardwired to deal with losses efficiently, and often without the help of a mental health professional. Grief, he explains, can actually deepen interpersonal connections and, in some cases, leads to a profound new sense of meaning in life. In this paradigm-shifting new look at life and loss, Bonanno highlights cutting-edge studies on facial expressions, genuine smiles, and memory and personality tests to show how we effectively and naturally overcome sorrow. He travels to China in search of mourning rituals. And explores wide-ranging case studies, like a mother dealing with the death of her daughter on 9/11, a wife who perseveres after losing her devoted husband, and his own reflections on the death of his father. Revealing a surprisingly positive perspective on this universal experience, The Other Side of Sadness is a must-read for anyone interested in our innate ability to thrive in the face of adversity. Even though it says some obvious things, and veers off in tangents having to do with the author's personal history that don't seem to belong in a book that purports to be about the science of grieving, the good news is that people don't have to feel beholden to a schedule of bereavement such as the Kubler Ross' step system describes. Bonanno has new studies that show many many people are resilient after the death of an important person in their lives. sem resenhas | adicionar uma resenha
"Conventional wisdom holds that grief unfolds in a five-stage process: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. But in The Other Side of Sadness, psychologist George Bonanno overturns this theory of grief - one that we have relied on for over forty years - and shows that it does not, in fact, represent what the majority of us go through when we lose a loved one." "Bonanno shows how the accepted model for mourning discounts our remarkable capacity for resilience. His research demonstrates that we are hardwired to deal with losses efficiently, and often without the help of a mental health professional. Grief, he explains, can actually deepen interpersonal connections and, in some cases, leads to a profound new sense of meaning in life."--Jacket. Não foram encontradas descrições de bibliotecas. |
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Much of the book was straightforward and made sense, but just a few times I found myself wanting to give it a toss, which happens often with books offering me advice. I never react well when someone tells me how I should feel. Bringing science and data together is always good when there is enough of it to actually tell us something relevant. This is one of the better books on the subject. There are so many accepted and wrong-headed assumptions about loss that have held on for far too long. Anytime I see someone state that it takes “x” number of months or years to get over a loss I’m greatly irritated. Likewise, when anyone starts telling “how” and “when” survivors “should” handle a loss, I’m out of there.
My strongest feeling is that grief handles the survivor, and not the other way around. While many people have similar reactions to losing people, everyone handles events differently. In the same way that everyone loves very differently, people also grieve very differently. So often a friend’s advice is given with the best of intentions, but many times they just want their surviving friend to be back to their old self, to be normal, and they also seem to be thinking, “please don’t make me talk about loss and death again.” I would also like to rail against the term a “new normal” as it a stupid combination of words. Nobody who has lost someone near and dear will ever be the same, loss and death changes people in so many ways … forever.
To me, C.S. Lewis’s raw and unfiltered book A Grief Observed is still one of the strongest books about loss, and it was nice to see him quoted several times in this book. Much of what I liked about The Other Side of Sadness was that many readers suffering from a loss will not be made to feel that they’re odd and completely broken, they will see how many other people suffer from the same feelings, and having those feelings doesn’t make anyone a freak. To sum up, dealing with factual knowledge around a major life change is much better than silly, unproven theory and bromide from years past. ( )