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Registre-se no LibraryThing tpara descobrir se gostará deste livro. Ainda não há conversas na Discussão sobre este livro. Many singles today are in pain--wounded from past relationships, overwhelmed at being single longer than they expected, or devastated at finding themselves single again. But whether you're sixteen or sixty, it's never too late to get started along the path to trusting God and choosing His best for your future. Single himself until age thirty-three, Dr. Don Raunikar delves into the real issues you face and offers sound, proven advice for creating a godly, deeply satisfying courtship: "When we follow God's plan for relationships, we are healed and made whole, not scarred and shattered." Choosing God's Best will give you refreshing hope for your future. sem resenhas | adicionar uma resenha
Make a God Choice, Not Just a Good Choice Many Christian singles today are in pain. Wounded from past relationships, overwhelmed at being single longer than they expected, devastated at finding themselves single again. Eighteen- to sixty-year-olds will welcome the timely, biblically based approach Dr. Raunikar offers as he encourages them along the path to Choosing God's Best: healing from the past; learning how to avoid the pain of "counterfeit oneness" physically, emotionally, and spiritually; and much more. This attractive, repackaged edition delves into the real issues Christian singles face today and offers sound, proven advice for creating deeply satisfying godly relationships. Who's Your Matchmaker? Disillusioned by dating? Tired of being let down? It may be time to visit the ultimate Matchmaker. No matter what your age or past, it's never too late to trust God and choose His best for your future. Dr. Don Raunikar delves into the real issues to offer proven, biblical principles for creating godly relationships and a deeply satisfying courtship. Read this book--and be ready for romance God's way. "Dr. Don Raunikar offers hope for the single man or woman who is disillusioned with the modern dating scene. Drawing upon time-tested biblical principles, Dr. Raunikar makes a convincing case for the benefits of a courtship based on God's wisdom, versus a dating relationship based on man's." Bill Bright Founder, Campus Crusade for Christ International "I feel like Choosing God's Best was written specifically for me. Few would argue that the current system of dating isn't in desperate need of reform. Dr. Raunikar goes even further with his radical, biblical solution to the perils and pitfalls of dating. Thanks, Dr. Raunikar, for being a radical." Derek Webb Singer/songwriter "I'm so glad to see a book addressing what I've called the 'dating mess.' Choosing God's Best is straightforward and scriptural. I especially appreciated the explanation of the categories of dating, which are seldom understood." Elisabeth Elliot Author and speaker "I wish this book had been around when I was dating. So much pain, so many missed opportunities, and so many mistakes could have been avoided if I had used these principles." Steve Arterburn Founder and chairman, New Life Ministries Story Behind the Book Dr. Don Raunikar was a professional therapist specializing in singles' issues. He wrote Choosing God's Best as a result of discovering the common frustrations and desires of his patients, combined with his own experiences before he was married. Originally published in 1998, the book continues to serve as a timeless message for singles. Still changing lives to this day, this repackaged edition will reach an even broader, untapped market with the hope of God's truth and His promise for healthy relationships. Não foram encontradas descrições de bibliotecas. |
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Summary: Raunikar advocates ‘courtship’ over ‘dating,’ characterizing dating as directionless and courtship as an accountable path to marriage. Important distinctives would be that Christian courtship requires accountability (preferably by an older, married couple that walks with God); Christian courtship means spiritual oneness before emotional or physical oneness.
A few criticisms:
- Like Joshua Harris and Elisabeth Elliot, Raunikar takes a few things for granted concerning God:
1. If I set aside two weeks (!) of focused prayer, God will reveal to me whether or not I should court someone (no mention of the ‘dark night of the soul’ or Christian confusion);
2. If I exhibit patience and faithfulness, God will lead me to the mate he has for me (no mention of singleness being a lifelong gift for some);
3. God’s will is something I interact with from the ‘inside’ or the ‘outside’ (no space for a dynamic, redemptive view of history).
- The courtship timeline, mentioned by other reviewers, is awfully prescriptive.
- Raunikar cites ‘believers’ he knew who ‘stumble’ (more or less) into promiscuous sex before marriage, taking for granted that these people are indeed Christians when they are walking in unholiness. He then seemingly lays the blame at the foot of this broken ‘dating system,’ rather than having the chutzpah to say, “These people’s problem is that they have zero walk with Christ.”
Aside: Although I can’t say it’s been handled better in recent years, the book has a problematic view of decision-making, which implies that I can just pray and fast and I’ll always know what to do. I believe in an open view of history, so there’s no way I could know beforehand if I “should” marry a girl. That’s putting the cart before the horse. Sometimes God invites us to seek wisdom, to get to know everything we can (i.e. in this case by spending time with someone), and to make a decision!
Other than these problems, Raunikar is basically right. We need more accountability in our Christian dating relationships! Because of the blend of cultures in America, we in some ways have half-baked norms. Unlike other cultures, in America there are few expectations for relationships leading to marriage. Hopefully the man asks the father for her hand, but even that is somewhat optional.
Raunikar says courtship is the golden ticket. What he doesn’t mention is that many Christians are already dating with set boundaries, and what they call ‘dating’ looks a lot like courtship and not much like Harris’ and Raunikar’s caricatures of a 1960s Woodstock-style dating scene.
Raunikar doesn’t admit to the limitations of his system. We don’t have to use a new name for it (“I don’t date—I court!” said the home-schooler) to create and embody new norms. On a most basic level these should involve non-negotiables like:
1. Physical Oneness in Marriage: Sex is confined to public, covenantal marriage.
2. Emotional Oneness in Commitment: Unmarried couples should confine their alone time to defined, public spaces.
3. Spiritual Oneness Before Marriage: Unmarried couples should seek to know each other in group settings, especially social and spiritual groups that follow Christian holiness (such as churches and church groups). ( )