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My Phantoms (2021)

de Gwendoline Riley

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"Helen Grant, known to her acquaintances as Hen, is a mystery to her daughter. An extrovert with few friends who has sought intimacy in the wrong places; a twice-divorced mother of two now living alone surrounded by her memories, Helen has always haunted Bridget. Now Bridget sees Helen once a year, and considers the problem to be contained. As she looks back on their tumultuous relationship- the performances and small deceptions- she tries to reckon with the cruelties inflicted on both sides. But when Helen makes it clear that she wants more, it seems an old struggle will have to be replayed"--… (mais)
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This is an incredibly well written and subtle book about a toxic mother-daughter relationship. We gradually build up a picture of Bridget's childhood and relationship both with her father and mother, whilst also seeing her adult relationship with her mother. It's tense, funny and unsparing. ( )
  AlisonSakai | Apr 2, 2023 |
I loved this book. It depicts a young woman intellectual in a struggle with her mother who tries to have a conventional life, always tryting to fit in, but never quite making it. The father always had to "get one over" be exceptional, and regarded the family members who listened to his bizarre and unbelievable tales as mannequins--not supposed to answer, just to be an audience.

Later in life when the mother has divorced the father, a pattern emerges in which Bridget (the young woman) only sees the mother once a year. They always meet for a meal; the mother wonders why she's never met Bridget's boyfriend and is never invited to her house. The reader begins to understand that Bridget may be an unreliable narrator. Why does she keep her distance from her mother, her sister?

Note: the painting on the cover of this and First Love are by Jean Cooke, a British painter. The still life on this cover reminds me of Francesca Woodman's photos for some reason. ( )
  BarbaraPoore | Feb 10, 2023 |
Bridget Grant’s mother and father are unsettling. Her mother, Helen who is known as Hen, desperately wants to fit in. It is something she gestures towards throughout her life, never fully achieving it nor, perhaps, having a clear sense of what achieving it would be like. Bridget’s father is an altogether nastier piece of work, playing to the gallery even if only an imaginary gallery; pointlessly cruel to both Hen, Bridget, and Bridget’s sister, Michelle. Bridget’s only defence against him is to close herself off from him in hopes that he will just go away. It is somewhat surprising then to find that Bridget and her sister survive this upbringing. Mostly.

So much is odd about Bridget’s characterization of her parents and their sometimes friends that the reader may begin to suspect Bridget’s point of view. Is she as stable and clear-eyed as she appears? Understandably her relations with her mother, later in life, remain strained, but she is also distant with her sister, who has only a minor role in this novel. As the title suggests, Bridget is haunted by her mother, never fully exorcising her influence (or the memory of her repulsive father). So it comes as a bit of a shock when we see later see Bridget in a simple relationship with her partner, John. Is it convincing?

Absolutely amazing writing, I think. It must be so difficult to get the tone just right. Gwendoline Riley does.

Easily recommended to those up for a bit of nasty families. ( )
  RandyMetcalfe | Nov 14, 2022 |
My Phantoms, Gwendoline Riley, author; Hannah Curtis, narrator
This is such a tenderly told tale of a family forced to come to grips with their relationships, past and present, as terminal illness and death loom. They have to explore their feelings and the reasons for them as they react to the current trauma. Was their behavior justified? Bridget is forced to face her own life as she now must deal with her mother’s, and as she relates little anecdotal moments, the reader gets a picture of the way the family interacts with each other.
Bridget’s mother is Helen Grant. Once her family had lived in Venezuela where her father was a photographer for the Shell Oil Chemical Company. Helen pretty much married to escape her home which was anything but peaceful for her. As she puts it, though, she left home and married simply because that was what was done at that time. Helen was born in 1945 and seemed to consider herself a child of the 60’s. She loved to travel. Eventually, she had two children. One, a very devoted daughter, Michelle; the other, Bridget, who is very angry and resentful and has hardly seen her mother since she left home, a home which was not a happy place for her.
Helen, called Hen because of how she pronounced her name as she learned to talk, seems self-absorbed or, perhaps, even distracted. The children’s father, Lee Grant, seems passive-aggressive, perhaps, even cruel at times. Hen eventually leaves him. Bridget, eventually also leaves her family, as Helen did, and she rarely looks back. She, like her mother, found peace leaving home.
Although Helen kept busy, she was rarely content; she often complained, and had two failed marriages. Bridget and Michelle are both unmarried, living with partners, and have no children. Bridget leaves the care of her mother to her sister and rarely helps out or shows up, unless it is an emergency.
As Bridget tells the story, almost in a conversation with the reader, her anger and disappointment with her parents reveals itself. Her mother’s sarcasm and passive-aggression come alive. They both seem to quietly torment each other. It seems that some personality traits have passed on through the generations.
The author has captured the intense relationships of the family members and explores the subtle evidence of their frustration with each other, their anger that sometimes seems to seethe below the surface, and the way they deal with each other. Michelle is the devoted daughter who steps in to help all the time, apparently without resentment. She and her partner care for her mother, seemingly willingly, though there is no way that Bridget would take on the same responsibility,anyway. She has resisted even introducing her mother to her partner, David, for years.
As the three family members are explored in detail, only one seems likeable to me, since she is somewhat sympathetic, another somewhat self absorbed, and the final one marches to her own drummer. The events and the reasons that have created their personalities dance across the page. This seems like a family tortured by dysfunctional relationships that never morphed into better ones until it seemed to be too late. Their secrets and inability to deal with the reality of their situation became a larger reality when Hen developed a brain tumor and lost even more of her lackluster comprehension of the real world.
The narrator is superb, capturing every nuance of the conversations taking place with the appropriate emphasis and emotion that takes the reader right into the moment, right into a kind of quiet emotional experience that seems ready to erupt into a maelstrom. The author explores the relationships subtly but very insightfully as she illustrates the behavior of the characters and the reasons for that behavior. ( )
  thewanderingjew | Oct 24, 2022 |
This book could have easily triggered me since I am estranged from my own mother, but this mother is a different branch of personality disorder entirely. Pleasant surprize that my favorite character from First Love was the subject of an entire book! Again there is an ironic distance between the characters, and towards the end the distance almost felt cruel, but I think the behaviour of the narrator is a position of self-defence. When a mother is toxic, sometimes all you can do is distance yourself and try to salvage your own life so that she doesn't take you down with her. Great book. ( )
  squarishoval | Oct 16, 2022 |
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“I absolutely loved it. Its my favorite novel of this year and then I ordered up absolutely everything Gwendoline Riley has ever written and I read all of that as well. . . . As I kept reading I was thinking how has Gwendoline Riley done this? How has she gained access to every unworthy thought I’ve ever had about my so-called ‘loved ones’?”
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