Siblings Without Rivalry guides the way to family peace and tranquillity with humor and compassion for both parents and children. Illustrated, action-oriented, and easy to understand, it's packed with sensitive yet sensible ways to turn quarreling siblings and frustrated parents into an open, communicative family.

This a great reference book for helping your kids develop healthy relationships with their siblings. Stand-out points to me are:
Encouraging your kids to work out the problem together instead of involving you.
Talk to your kids about specific things you love about them instead of saying to love everyone equally. I love you uniquely, not equally.
Never pigeonhole your kids by saying they are specifically good or bad at something in front of other people. Or pitting your kids against one another by saying the other one is better at something (cleaning up, being on time, doing homework, etc.)
Spend one-on-one time with each kid and don't talk about the other kids during that time. ( )

This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding―much gained from raising their own children―Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Selected Reading Questionnaire.

Great book! It reminded me of "The Happiest Kid on the Block". ( )

This is a very readable book, with the approach of finding good solutions to sibling problems, and helping children learn to get along without parental interference, wherever possible.

The first chapter is introductory, giving examples of the kinds of problems many parents experience: children fighting, putting each other down, and so on. The rest of the book helps parents to see when it’s appropriate to get involved, and how to see issues from a child's point of view.

While none of the material was new to me (I first read this over twenty years ago), it was a useful reminder about parents’ and other adults' roles in helping children learn to deal with problems that arise. The book is so readable, and so interesting that I read the whole thing, including the supplementary chapters to the 10th anniversary edition, in just a few hours.

The ideas won't necessarily work first time, but are well worth considering if one's current approach is not having any success. I recommend this book highly to any adult dealing with children who can’t get along at all, or who are worn down with children fighting. ( )