How do I help someone grow who's not like me? Differences are tremendously important in spiritual formation. The reality is that every difference carries its own possibilities and its own challenges. CS Lewis said once that perhaps we are all created differently so that we can see and enjoy and point to a part of God that no one else is quite suited to see and praise. Perhaps that's part of why there are so many people. Perhaps that is why we are all so different from each other.