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Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex (edição: 2013)

de Abraham Morgentaler

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"Harvard Professor Abraham Morgentaler, MD, offers a rare view into the secret world of his patients, providing a startling new perspective on men, sex, and relationships. What really drives men to do what they do? Why Men Fake It uses the real-life stories of Dr. Morgentaler's patients to let us in on the secrets of men and to examine the current state of male sexuality in science and medicine as well as in relationships and popular culture. In this frank and open discussion of the subject, Dr. Morgentaler will make men and women alike question what we think we know about gender, motivation, sexuality, relationships, and, ultimately, the definition of a "man." From the biology and science behind the "Bionic Penis," to the psychology behind men faking orgasms, Why Men Fake It will change the conversation about male sexual health, and will introduce the world to sex and relationships from a new point of view. Dr. Morgentaler's exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex- a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media--to give us the definitive guide to men, as we've never seen them before. From these stories you will gain a surprising perspective on the minds and motivations of men: committed, caring, loving and sometimes clumsy individuals doing their best to be great partners in their relationships"--"What really drives men to do what they do? Why Men Fake It uses the real-life stories of Dr. Morgentaler's patients to let us in on the secrets of men and to examine the current state of male sexuality in science and medicine as well as in relationships and popular culture. In this frank and open discussion of the subject, Dr. Morgentaler will make men and women alike question what we think we know about gender, motivation, sexuality, relationships, and, ultimately, the definition of a "man." From the biology and science behind the "Bionic Penis," to the psychology behind men faking orgasms, Why Men Fake It will change the conversation about male sexual health, and will introduce the world to sex and relationships from a new point of view. Dr. Morgentaler's exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex- a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media--to give us the definitive guide to men, as we've never seen them before. From these stories you will gain a surprising perspective on the minds and motivations of men: committed, caring, loving and sometimes clumsy individuals doing their best to be great partners in their relationships"--… (mais)
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Título:Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex
Autores:Abraham Morgentaler
Informação:Henry Holt and Co. (2013), Edition: First Edition, Hardcover, 320 pages
Coleções:Sua biblioteca
Avaliação:*****
Etiquetas:Medicine, Science, Relarionships, mens' health, sex, popular culture

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What was totally unexpected was how little of the part that I read (before just not reading it any longer--about halfway) is about men's sexuality. I guess I expected the good doctor to actually spend some time discussing in depth what men think about sex and sexuality in relationships and outside relationships, and why, perhaps, they might "fake it" for the sake of their partner.

Instead, the vast majority of what I read focused on the doctor's work providing sex-change, sex-enhancement, or reconstructive operations. The chapters read like an elongated commercial, selling the "virtues" of Viagra and mostly promoting his own practice--and not on the cheap, either!

I suspect Dr. Morgentaler means well, and he seems truly compassionate toward his patients and wants people to understand that what we learn via media images is not always what is reality. But, considering that most intelligent people probably surmise this, he really did not introduce much that one cannot figure out on their own. I really wanted more psychology and sociology, less Dr. Phil or QVC. ( )
  Ellesee | Mar 13, 2014 |
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This was an interesting book. Very well written and I enjoyed the perspectives presented. Much of it make sense, and some didn't, but it was certain written in layman's terms where any semi-educated person could understand. I enjoyed reading this and would recommend it to anyone interested in psychology or sexuality. ( )
  Kattatonia | Sep 28, 2013 |
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Very well written & extremely informative! This should be read by women & men alike. It answers many questions & addresses some of the esteem issues that both genders might have within themselves at some point during their lives!
It is written by an MD who is also a professor, & after 25 years of experience, really has some valuable information to offer to anyone that has ever developed intimacy with a man & reached a stagnant point in their relationship & blamed themselves for it! I found so many answers that helped me to understand! It is a very easy read written in English, not medical jargon! ( )
  fashionablyloud1 | May 5, 2013 |
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Mostly, it seems, sex talk always revolves around the woman. Whether it's theories on how best to please them, or their issues with the inadequacies of men, there is always a woman's viewpoint somewhere in the discussion. After all, men, when was the last time you were hanging out with the guys and topic of penile rigidity came up? We might often joke about the use of Vigara and other medical miracles, but how many will admit to their peers that they take this most popular of medications?

Fortunately, we have Dr. Morgantaler to discuss these things and relate to us anecdotal case studies from his career as a specialist in the fascinating field of male sexuality. Surgeon, therapist, and quite possibly the most interesting guy at a bachelorette party, Dr. Morgantaler has put together quite a career as the go-to guy when one's junk doesn't perform like it used to. Or even like it never did.

The title story is about a guy who faked his orgasms just so his hot girlfriend would think she did her job. From here, Morgantaler explains how in many cases, men are obsessed with bringing the female to orgasm, often to the point where their own pleasure suffers. Some of the stories in this book are heart-wrenching; a guy suffering from a second case of twisted testicles just as he was on a vacation with his dream date. He somehow played through the pain, which typically is bad enough to compel most men to go to the hospital immediately. But his heroic effort left him with two dead testicles, and his dream date wanted to have children above all else. It was not a happy ending, although the heroic effort to find living sperm to attempt a (failed) artificial insemination is a testament to Dr. Morgentaler's skill.

Fascination aside, I found this book to be of interest as well. Many of his case studies involved men in the 50+ demographic (which I am a member). While my body hasn't failed me yet, I found myself identifying with some of these men who miss the virility of their youth. It's nice to know that if I find it necessary, there is medical recourse should age and other medical conditions such as diabetes wreak havoc on my libido and performance. It's nice to know it probably won't be necessary to hire a stunt-double. ( )
1 vote JeffV | Apr 11, 2013 |
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Here's the thing. At some point it occurred to me that knowing my gender really tells you jack shit about who I am. I mean, come on, roughly half the human population share that same gender. As far as enlightening personal identifiers go that's about as piss-poor as it gets.

I'm not the sort of person that says gender is a cultural invention, I just think it's the absolute least important part of who I am and pretty much irrelevant when it comes to getting to know others. We're all humans, all individuals. Rather than piling cultural biases on ourselves and others just let everyone be themselves, whoever they are.

That's where I'm coming from. And from this point of view Morgentaler's book vacillates from weak sauce gender politics to timid tolerance with a side of not-quite-pearl-clutching sex talk. Frankly it's embarrassing. I'm certainly no expert in any of these things but Morgentaler has a tendency to sound like a college freshman that just escaped from his small town conservative Christian upbringing and, coming home for Christmas, is gently and apologetically trying to explain to several elderly maiden aunts that men aren't actually DTF any woman any time and also this one guy in my writing class is gay and he seems really nice. Weak Sauce.

What Morgentaler does know a lot about is penises. You could almost, almost say this book was only about men by virtue of the fact that they're attached to the penises Morgentaler wants to tell us about. You see Morgentaler has made a career of helping men with penis troubles. And that's a noble profession. Sadly, once he dives into his most familiar topic the tone shifts from blushing naivete and the occasional accidentally horrifying gender politics to self-aggrandizing patient-patronizing penis savior. Seriously. Morgentaler's dramatizations of his doctor/patient interactions are absurd:

1. At one point an engineer supposedly asks Morgentaler if he'll be able to father children now that he's allowed his last nut to go necrotic.

2. Morgentaler coins the term "Low T" for low testosterone. He says he did this because apparently everyone, even his most educated patients, has trouble pronouncing "testosterone". He seems very proud of this and eagerly reports some other people have started using the term too!

3. In recounting a story of a married transman and transwoman that want to get pregnant some how neither realizes they would need to go off hormones. I'm pretty sure there isn't a single adult transitioned transperson that doesn't know that.

And then there are the truly horrifying moments. Early in the book Morgentaler recalls a man who couldn't have a sexual relationship with his wife. She just wasn't interested, instead she gave him permission to have other sexual partners. But oh no. Monogamy is the end all beat all so Morgentaler counsels the man to continue pressing sexual intercourse with his disinterested wife. Hey, that's coercive at best and marital rape at worst but goddam it's monogamous so mission accomplished. I mean, everyone knows the thing to do with a woman that doesn't want sex is to put a penis in her, that always fixes everything.

And then there's this gem which so perfectly demeans and diminishes men. It's actually a perfect parallel to the sub-human status women occupied for so long when being a wife was about serving a husband and making babies.

"It is difficult these days for a man to figure out what he brings to the party for the modern woman who appears to have everything: career, money, independence, friends. The one obvious thing he can provide is a hard penis. The good part is that it's true that women cannot supply this on their own. The scary part is that the hard penis can be a unreliable resource. Sometimes it's shy and doesn't want to come out and play. Sometimes it starts out all right and then disappears midact. And eventually with age and/or illness, in nearly all men the ability to 'provide' the hard penis fades away entirely."

Men! Women! Assorted persons with non-binary genders! Do you know want to know what you bring to the table? Yourself. A whole human being. So a woman can stand on her own, so what? You're not her dad. Be adults together. There's nothing wrong with bringing a hard dick to the table, but don't let anyone tell you that's the only thing you've got to offer, or even the most important thing. I don't care how many books they've written. ( )
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"Harvard Professor Abraham Morgentaler, MD, offers a rare view into the secret world of his patients, providing a startling new perspective on men, sex, and relationships. What really drives men to do what they do? Why Men Fake It uses the real-life stories of Dr. Morgentaler's patients to let us in on the secrets of men and to examine the current state of male sexuality in science and medicine as well as in relationships and popular culture. In this frank and open discussion of the subject, Dr. Morgentaler will make men and women alike question what we think we know about gender, motivation, sexuality, relationships, and, ultimately, the definition of a "man." From the biology and science behind the "Bionic Penis," to the psychology behind men faking orgasms, Why Men Fake It will change the conversation about male sexual health, and will introduce the world to sex and relationships from a new point of view. Dr. Morgentaler's exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex- a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media--to give us the definitive guide to men, as we've never seen them before. From these stories you will gain a surprising perspective on the minds and motivations of men: committed, caring, loving and sometimes clumsy individuals doing their best to be great partners in their relationships"--"What really drives men to do what they do? Why Men Fake It uses the real-life stories of Dr. Morgentaler's patients to let us in on the secrets of men and to examine the current state of male sexuality in science and medicine as well as in relationships and popular culture. In this frank and open discussion of the subject, Dr. Morgentaler will make men and women alike question what we think we know about gender, motivation, sexuality, relationships, and, ultimately, the definition of a "man." From the biology and science behind the "Bionic Penis," to the psychology behind men faking orgasms, Why Men Fake It will change the conversation about male sexual health, and will introduce the world to sex and relationships from a new point of view. Dr. Morgentaler's exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex- a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media--to give us the definitive guide to men, as we've never seen them before. From these stories you will gain a surprising perspective on the minds and motivations of men: committed, caring, loving and sometimes clumsy individuals doing their best to be great partners in their relationships"--

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