Diana Kirschner

Take my advice -- don't go out there looking for love without reading Diana Kirschner's LOVE IN 90 DAYS. This book is more than sentimental, seasonal fluff -- a LOT more! I had expected a rehash of the usual advice for finding a partner. You know, join clubs, volunteer, be open to dating your next-door neighbor's third cousin's son, get a dog. I was surprised to find that though Kirschner has a fun and accessible writing style, she takes her subject very seriously.

In fact, you should be prepared to take a good hard look at yourself as early on there's a discussion of deadly dating patterns. Kirschner explains 13 patterns and helps you to identify which ones you might be stuck in. Readers are asked to do a lot of self-assessment throughout this entire book, but particularly in the first few sections. Of course, most self-help books have sections of writing exercises at the end of each chapter, and this one is no exception. But it certainly makes sense to figure out exactly what you're looking for in a partner and why you haven't been able to find the right guy so far.

Did I say "find the right guy"? Kirschner has aimed LOVE IN 90 DAYS specifically at women, and she covers situations from a female perspective. I think guys could certainly benefit from some of the advice in this book, but with terminology such as the Dud/Stud Test, they might be more comfortable looking elsewhere. Kirschner does point out that to be a worthy contender, a guy should have some aptitude for self-reflection and personal growth.

One of my favorite ideas proposed in LOVE IN 90 DAYS is Kirschner's advice to date three guys at once early in the program. At first the concept sounds a bit tawdry, but the emphasis here is on dating, not a physical relationship. Part of Kirschner's reasoning here is to keep women from falling too hard too fast and becoming caught up in a "singular focus." By dating three guys at once, you can allow yourself the opportunity to really compare and contrast - and that will help you determine what attributes are most important to you in a partner.

Another thing I liked about this book is Kirschner's style of writing. Reading along, I had the sense of being advised by an older and wiser sister or cousin. While there are clinical and academic references at the back of the book, the text reads like a friendly chat. And that's nice, especially when "Dr. Diana" suggests online dating! Don't worry, she'll guide you through it every step of the way from picking a site to picking a partner.

I liked LOVE IN 90 DAYS a lot. Any lady out there who is looking for love should take the time to check out this book -- and follow the advice!… (mais)

Enlightening, intellectual, forever change your perspective on love.

The Love Mentors Guide to Lasting Love
Through her bestseller, Love in 90 Days, Dr. Diana Kirschner helped thousands of women find true love. Now she has written the perfect follow-up: a unique guide to deepen any love relationship, to move from casual to committed, and ultimately to go from the anxiety of not knowing where things are going...to the security of fulfilling and lasting love.

Love Mentor Dr. Diana offers revolutionary advice for finding-and keeping-the one you love:

•Create irresistible attraction and an atmosphere that men love to be around.
•Find out the single most important thing you can do to get a sincere commitment from the guy you want.
•Keep that crazy-in-love feeling going, no matter how long you've been together.
•Learn the secret to instantly resolving conflict with your man.
•Know when to have "the talk": Don't think it matters when you bring it up? Think again.
•Avoid the biggest mistake women make when he's "not ready" for a commitment
•Get your relationship back and better than ever, even if he has cheated.

If you have love problems, Dr. Diana has the solutions. This book is your key to creating your own happiest-ever-after now.

Just in time for Valentines Day I have finished reviewing Sealing The Deal. This book is not just for single woman looking for a relationship. The very reason why I quick grabbed it for review. Dr Diana has a proven method and it is not based on anything ridiculous or out of perspective. She uses simple techniques to make you aware of how you sabotage your relationships without even knowing it. She provides tips and ideas on how to correct these No, No's with positive reinforcement exercises.

Her information on how men react and their feelings toward us women was very helpful for me. If you are married or in a regular relationship she gives great ideas on how to keep your relationship fresh and exciting. Ideas I will be using because my husband and I do have our days, days where we get into the same old routine when it comes to intimacy. We rarely get into any disagreements but when we do I like to get on my high horse and draw out his imperfections. Yes, I am guilty of that for sure, just like Dr Diana says in her book. The problem with me is I have such a caring and loving husband, that husband every woman wants. When I do get ticked off at him I use my insecurities to make him feel bad because it is hard for me to find fault with him. This is my way of telling myself "see he is not perfect after all." Which is true, however this does not mean I should verbally tell him how he has Fred Flinstone feet and how I hate how he cuts his toe nails which causes him to get ingrown nails. Instead I have chosen to cut his toe nails for him. Taking into consideration as we get older it is harder for us to cut our toe nails straight, which if you don't, leads to ingrown nails. I know this is a dumb example but my point is to do things for each other as a couple that you usually don't. Show you care for each other. Besides I can't think of anything right now he does that gets under my skin.… (mais)

This is one of those so-so books that doesn't really add anything new to current romance advice--There are tons of books out there on the same topic and some are far better. That said, it does offer helpful ideas and it's not really offensive. It's just there among the other books.

I'm not really looking for anything permanent or "true" love, but I was looking to meet new potential boyfriends so I could date around and get some ideas as to what I want at this point in my life. I had no interest in men for several years after separating from an abusive ex-husband, but I decided that this would be the year I'd get out and really date again. And that's really the most essential message of this book--you have to WANT to get out there and try. Kirschner's tips advocate a very proactive attitude to finding love rather than a laid back, "wait and see" attitude.

So with my own goals in mind, I tried some of Kirschner's ideas. Apparently my new open mind and decision to meet someone this year helped. In the spring, I went to an event for a club in which I am a member, and at one point, realized that four men were sitting at a table with me, vying for my attention. True, it is a club dominated by men, but more importantly, it is a club in which I am extremely interested. You can't just go out and try to find a guy in a place that that doesn't reflect your values; you have to look in places that would attract the kind of man you want to meet.

I had more dates this year than I've had in any year since high school and I enjoyed some exciting, but short term relationships. All because I simply decided that this was the year I was going to go out and date! I didn't find true love, and the idea of going husband shopping doesn't appeal to me, but I have no doubt that a similar attitude applied to those goals can be effective.

So to finalize, Kirschner offers good ideas that can work; however, there are many other similar books on the market and some of the others are better.… (mais)